Long Distance Lovin' - Whitney

She blogs over at "The Observant Turtle" and she's over here today to share her long distance relationship experience.
Imagine getting married to the love of your life, going on a fantastic honeymoon, then returning to the real world and your brand new husband moving a thousand miles away.

That's what I did.

Let me just start off by saying that I know that there are people out there who had/have it worse than we did. There are couples that are separated from each other for months and months at a time without being able to communicate with each other. I know that. We were pretty lucky.

After getting married on July 23, 2011, my husband Nick and I went on an amazing honeymoon to Disney World. We had a great time, but the entire time there was an underlying sadness, knowing that he would be leaving me once we returned. One night we were waiting in line for a show and I just started crying because I couldn't imagine my life without him. I had spent almost every single day with this man for four years. How would I go four months without being able to see him?

He left our little townhome in South Carolina for Houston, Texas on August 19. There were so many tears. I felt empty, scared, alone. I didn't know what I would do without my new husband. My parents came up to spend time with me that day and helped me make the townhouse "mine" instead of "ours." The whole day I was on edge, with tears constantly in my eyes.

But, the days went on. Time passed and it got easier. I threw myself into everything I could find to keep myself busy. I joined organizations, got an internship. I kept busy so that I wouldn't think of how sad I was.

I was finally able to see Nick for the first time on my fall break, in the middle of October. It was seriously like a scene from a movie. I ran to him, cried, and fell into his arms. We spent five days together and I left him sadly knowing I wouldn't see him for another month. Having someone ask me "how is married life?" and having to respond, "I wouldn't know" killed me.

School continued and finally Thanksgiving came. Nick left again, and I finished my last semester of school. He arrived for the final time, two days before my graduation. The holidays came and went and we packed up my car and drove the long trip back to Texas.

We were apart for four months and they were hard, but we knew we would be together again.

If I can offer any advice for couples doing the long-distance thing, it's to remember that it will all be over soon. Take pleasure in the little things. Send each other snail mail and care packages. Find something you can do at the same time, like watch a movie or tv show. Most importantly, invest in a web cam! Being able to see each others faces really helps!

I would never wish a long-distance relationship on anyone, it honestly sucks hardcore. But enjoying the little things can make it all the better.

-Whitney

3 comments :

Miss Amy said...

Good advice - distance is hard, but it helps you grow as a person too. Being strong for him, will end up helping you be strong yourself. Love the name of your blog - so funny! :)

Candace Stevenson said...

she seems so cute!! long distance= :( but that will make the reunion that much sweeter!

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Lauren {at} Life.Love.Lauren said...

Great advice! I did long distance while dating my husband and am hoping not to do it again while married...but we shall see. Newest follower to this blog!

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